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  • New Year’s resolutions don’t work: 3 reasons why and 2 things to try

    New Year’s resolutions don’t work. When it comes to them, you are probably one of two types: I used to fall into the first category, setting NYRs every year. Because the end of the semester or year-end holidays get hectic, I got into the habit of giving myself Lunar New Year as my deadline. That

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  • Anxious attachment relationships? 4 reasons why personality types are problematic

    Whether you have secure, avoidant, disorganized, or anxious attachment relationships you need to be wary when using personality types. It’s understandable why we are attracted to personality types and tests. Human relationships are challenging. Whether you’re dealing with someone very difficult at work or trying to connect with someone you love, there are challenges. Everyone

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  • 2 Steps to feel less depleted and more satisfied: Forget what’s ideal

    So many smart and caring people feel depleted at the end of the day. Even if they start out with enthusiasm, all too often, it fizzles too fast. In an interview years ago for Prevention magazine, writer Marygrace Taylor asked me what advice I would give her readers who want to have a perfect day

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  • The Great Money Reset Begins with Small Steps

    Almost always you can find intermediate options that might be appropriate…consider incremental steps you might take toward achieving your dreams as you envision future scenarios. Jill Schlesinger Any reset begins with small steps. When someone promises big changes, it’s natural to get skeptical. While life is prone to major disruptions, instigating them or making big

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  • 3 Essential Tips for Moms Returning to Work

    The longer you’ve been away, the harder it will feel. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. Many moons ago, I was quoted in a New York Post article “Back in Business: How to Bounce Back Into the Workforce Post-baby” alongside other experts, Vivian Steir Rabin, Tory Johnson, and Monica Burton. In the article,

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  • A Story-Worthy Habit: An easy way to assess your life

    At the end of every day, [I] ask myself one simple question: If I had to tell a story from today–a five-minute story on-stage about something that took place over the course of this day–what would that be? Matthew Dicks Matthew Dicks has won the Moth Story SLAM championship 36 times. In his book Storyworthy:

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  • How to start your successful return to work after a career break

    Here are unconventional and enjoyable ways you can start a successful return to work…even if you’re not quite sure what you want to do. Several years ago, I had dinner with a bright and cheerful mom. She had quit her job as a lawyer to stay at home with her young children. While she was

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  • How to get lucky in creativity…or in life

    Generosity is luck going in the opposite direction…inviting yourself into a community of good fortune. Whenever I feel I’m working in a groove…I am being the benefactor [not] the beneficiary. Twyla Tharp People have suggested that I read The Creative Habit: Learn It and Use It for Life. I had resisted because I thought, “I

    Purple knitting project beside 'The Creative Habit' book.

  • How to Stop Wasting Time (or Believing that You Are)

    In order to stop wasting time, we first need to consider if we actually are. A reader once asked me: Now that my children are back in school, how can I make the most of my time? I can easily spend an embarrassing amount of it reading the newspaper on my iPad and getting caught

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  • The happiness skill: How to develop your most neglected ability

    Achieving durable happiness as a way of being is a skill. It requires sustained effort in training the mind and developing a set of human qualities, such as inner peace, mindfulness, and altruistic love. Matthieu Ricard Learning that about the happiness skill was life changing for me. Before reading the book Happiness: A Guide to Developing

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  • The Importance of Joy

    It is surprising how smart women often underestimate or take for granted the importance of joy. I meet a lot of talented women who are successful. Whether they are childless executives, business owners, or stay-at-home moms, they are good at what they do. The people around them thrive. Yet, they are exhausted and not having

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  • How creative women can overcome toxic feedback to create more

    We shy away from feedback… because we assign it with the power of a mandate or a judgment… It is simply a resource to help you create. Joni B. Cole It took me too long to learn that we need positive feedback to create more, and that “brutal honestly” rarely helps us move forward when

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