The Upside of Envy

How feeling envy helped me in life — mostly

The Washington Post, April 7, 2024

Stuck in a male-dominated Korean culture, I grew up with envy. My earliest memory was waking up in my family’s Chicago apartment to find the living room jampacked with blue baby shower presents. Not only was I not invited to the party, but my unborn brother gained more possessions in one evening than I owned in the first six years of my life before he arrived.

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Thanksgiving after Cancer

After a terrifying year, my family is learning to be grateful for normal, humdrum life

The Washington Post, November 19, 2018

Thanksgiving is usually a busy time, not only in my career-coaching business but also in my roles as a mom and primary household manager — making me more harried and less grateful than I should be. But last holiday season, that busy but normal life fell apart when my 12-year-old, Gillian, received a diagnosis of a rare bone cancer.

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