Envy
Why Wanting What They Have is the Key to Getting What You Want
What if the emotion you’ve been avoiding could help you become who you’re meant to be?
Pre-OrderYou feel it. Everyone does.
That flicker of resentment. The pang of not-enoughness. The uncomfortable feeling of wanting something someone else has. It creeps in at work, at home, online, even among friends.
Most of us suppress it, deny it, and feel ashamed of it. But everyone feels it.
What if envy isn’t a flaw to fix… but a compass pointing you toward what you really want? What if your envy could guide you to a more fulfilled, extraordinary life?
ENVY: Why Wanting What They Have is the Key to Getting What You Want flips the script on one of our most misunderstood emotions.
Drawing from personal stories, social science, modern history, and her own clients’ breakthroughs, Stacy S. Kim, PhD reveals how to turn this ‘unspoken emotion’ into your most surprising ally.
You’ll discover:
- Why high achievers are especially vulnerable to envy, and how to break free from its hidden grip
- Step-by-step practices to harness envy as a motivating force rather than a source of shame
- How to stop chasing the wrong goals, unlock deeper satisfaction, and reconnect with what truly matters in work, relationships, and life
ENVY is the guidebook for anyone ready to stop hiding, start noticing, and turn envy into fuel for meaning, purpose, and joy.
Advance Praise for ENVY:
“Dr. Kim noted that in her native Korea, there is another word for the emotion that connotes motivation rather than resentment. ‘Envy is not just wanting,’ she said. ‘It’s an alarm bell that shows you what’s important to you.'”
Elizabeth Passarella
New York Times Well Newsletter
“Kim’s blend of research, personal examples, and exercises makes a convincing argument for harnessing what’s often considered a negative emotion as a tool for growth. Readers exhausted by comparison culture will find this a useful corrective.”
Publishers Weekly
Clearly written, cogent, and full of surprises, Envy should be required reading for anyone who has ever longed for what others possess or have achieved: all of us.
Ethan Kross
International Bestselling Author of CHATTER and SHIFT
As sisters who grew up each thinking the other had it or did it better, we were no strangers to comparisons. Yet Stacy’s candid, relatable stories made the fascinating research on envy easy and enjoyable to digest. Her book helped us see how envy not only helps you achieve, but makes life more satisfying, too.
Heela & Hannah Yang
CEO, Co-Founder of Sol de Janeiro & EVP, Chief Growth and Customer Officer of The New York Times
What Stacy Kim understands, and what took me too long to appreciate myself, is that our darkest emotions often shed the most light. ENVY makes a rigorous, wise, and compassionate case that the feeling high achievers are most ashamed to admit may offer one of the clearest signals of what they truly want.
Daniel Pink
#1 New York Times bestselling author of THE POWER OF REGRET and DRIVE
Get more out of ENVY in two steps
Step 1
Walk into your favorite independent bookstore to pre-order Envy, or preorder online at any of the following:
Step 2
Submit your receipt to gain entry into Stacy’s class “Lead Through Envy” before October 19.